The answer to your question will not come from giving it morethought. In fact the reason you feel so far away from the answer is because your thoughts are blocking you from it.
Instead, let’s use a different approach:
There’s nothing to figure out.
The answer will come FROM you, but it is not OF you.
The first step is to get out of your own way.
The answer will come with a big sense of relief. Have patience, and know that you'll know when you know.
Stay strong, Sista!